I had the privilege today of visiting a woman who is dying of cancer. Some might think that is kind of a weird privilege, and I understand that. Spending time with people who are moving closer and closer to death can be a bit unnerving. What do you say? Somehow, "How are you doing?" just doesn't seem to be the right question. Besides that, deep down inside, we just don't like coming face to face with what everyone spends so much time trying to avoid thinking about. We will, however, face it someday. Maybe not through the ravages of a disease, but somehow, someway, it will come to us. That makes us more than a little uncomfortable - even those of us who believe in faith that the end of this life is just the beginning of life in the presence of God forever. After more than sixteen years of ministry, I still find visiting the dying one of the most difficult parts of being a pastor. And, after more than sixteen years of ministry I can say without a doubt that it is during those visits that God has most profoundly taught me things I would never learn any other way.
Like today. I have visited with Melody four or five times since I have become pastor at Deep Creek, and I have watched as she has fought with every fiber of her being to defeat the cancer. She always has a smile on her face, even through the tears that flow when she talks about her struggle. She has family, and lots of friends in the area. Many people are, and have been, there to help her with whatever she might need. When I ask if there is anything I can do, the answer is always no, "just keep praying." I do. The whole church does. Lots of people are. But, I always feel so useless.
Today, I called to see if she was up for a visit. I had heard that she was getting weaker, and that the inevitable was getting closer and I felt burdened to stop and see her. Surprizingly Melody answered the phone and told me that today wasn't going so well, but that I could stop by after noon for a short visit and some prayer. I asked if she needed anything or if there was anything I could bring to her - like always, she said no. Once again, I just felt so useless. Couldn't I do
something? I just wanted to giver her something that would make her smile and encourage her. But, we are too far away from town to "buzz" in for a card or for a small flower arrangement. It was too short notice to cook her anything. I was at a loss and feeling pretty frustrated when I called Sue to tell her that I was going over after noon.
Just before I left my office, the phone rang. It was Sue. She is amazingly on time and the vessel that God uses in my life more than she could ever imagine. She said, "Why don't you stop by the house and pick up your guitar and play a song for her?" I was shocked by the question. Not that it is that strange, but that I had never thought of that. So, on the way to Melody's house, I picked up my quitar and took it with me.
After a few minutes of conversation with Melody and her mother, I asked her if I could sing
Amazing Grace, My Chains are Gone. She said yes, and as soon as I started she began crying. During the song, she smiled and looked at me and I knew she was encouraged. We talked some more about the hope we have in Christ, and in His triumph over sin and death. Then, I asked her if I could sing
I Will Rise (another incredible song by Chris Tomlin). She said yes. The truth is, the words of that song are so powerful,
I didn't know if I could get through it! But I did, and when it was over, there was a peace in that room that was unbelievable. Melody and her mom genuinely thanked me for the songs, and then we prayed.
What a rich and wonderful time of ministry that was. I'm not sure how much Melody received from my visit, but I know I received a blessing. I was humbled to be used of the Lord in someone's life, by doing something so simple. Yes - visiting a dying woman today was a privilege.